What if:
my partner dies I was settling my brother's estate in SC (I am in WV) and driving in VA when Himself called to say he was calling the EMS to go to the hospital. Said I will stop in an pick you up on my way home tomorrow. I was minutes away from my destination for the night in NC when I got the call from ER - he died. Fortunately, we had wills AND I was a sole proprietor. As I already advised - have a document of succession.
we get divorced Have seen thriving, well-managed B & Bs have to be sold due to divorce because of the financial devastation AND the workload being impossible for one person with no help.
one of us gets really sick (Gomez has had 3 surgeries since we’ve been here, I was ‘out sick’ for 3 months in 2019) When Himself had a 6-way bypass it was 7 weeks of hospital & rehab (due to polio, he could NOT lift himself with just his legs). AND of course, it was one of the few periods of revolving door guests and commitments - I missed seeing him one day. A woman who walked past my house daily, saw me and asked if I had a lawn mower - then SHE and her granddaughter came over and cut the grass I had not noticed was ankle-high. It happens, just as Morticia said.
family members die (I was driving 600 miles every month for years when both of my parents became sick and then died) My Father died HERE the month we opened. My b-i-l was here for 8 months dying of cancer (fortunately the weekend the house reeked we had no guests) and died HERE. My brother died in NC and fingers pointed to me to settle the estate - that was 3 months before Himself died.
the grief from someone dying makes it impossible for you to do more than basic chores I was fortunate to have City duties and responsibilities and a slow season - did not realize how "coast" I had become until my jeans started falling off me - I found myself forgetting to eat - something I never ever would have dreamed possible. I have lost 4 pant sizes (a good thing but doing it the hard way).
there’s a pandemic/recession/terrorist attack that cripples tourism I opened in 1996 - 9/11 hurt so bad that I got DEEP in debt. 2008 almost closed us but (Himself's medical incidents did not help) I was old enough to draw my pension and filed for SS - THAT saved us. (I have almost FINALLY paid off that debt from 2008 - there was not enough life insurance to pay it.) What saved me with this pandemic is that I was NOT paying for Himself's prescriptions, special foods, etc. It was just me and I was able to take care of my food/gas/daily expenses from the tiny salary I get from the City as City Clerk and had enough business to pay the B & B bills which were minimal since there was not much business.
- a child or other family member needs you to be away from the business (Gomez’s mother needed to be moved to dementia care and her house and belongings sold; I was the executor of my parents’ estates. Both cases in other states. Gomez’s brother just died, guess who’s trying to figure that out with no will in place from 1500 miles away.) My oldest daughter has several heart attacks - this one I dealt with via phone as her sons and siblings were there and I was not needed.
Just pointing out that what Morticia said is NOT something rare. Life happens so fill in YOUR What IF blanks.