Not an idiot. Just human.UKMaineiac said:
Boy, a dumb waiter would be the bomb. If we had a place for that, I'd put it in. Great for laundry, luggage, moving small furniture. But, alas, no room here at all. Every sq in of space has been dedicated to guest space. I would love just having a linen closet upstairs!
When he was doing the scraping wallpaper. patching, painting of the upstairs (I was still in Illinois earning $$$), DH rigged up a rope and bucket or something, I never did see it, to haul things upstairs since hauling himself was all that he could accomplish. There are still rope marks on the railings..... "I neer thought about it doing that....."
A dumbwaiter for linens would just have to be the greatest convenience for an innkeeper. I can't imagine anyone not wanting one, unless their rooms are all on one level.
{{Hugs}} your way. I don't think you should feel like an idiot...I think it's human nature. You are a wonderful innkeeper and a breakdown here and there are not going to hurt anyone. Imagine if you didn't break down. I think you'd be brittle and raw without letting out all those emotions.UKMaineiac said:
I am trying to figure out a way to put one on the back that would run from the top floor to the old kitchen which is where we store all the laundry We could easily put access on each floor its just getting it all costed.
We each take our turn on melt-down. It is just different things that are the "last straw" that sets us off. No offense meant to you men, but most of us here are women who are expected to (at least it is this way in MY house) take care of the inn, keep track of family obligations, take care of the owners quarters and laundry, cook for the family (DH at least does his own food - not mine) , etc, etc It does get overwhelming - and taking care of kids besides! I was not operating a B & B when my kids were growing up - I was working 2 jobs and attending functions, involved in PTA and room mother, etc so I DO know what you are going through - all of you with kids. I commend you and know you are strong people. Your kids will grow up to be stong and "survivors" because you are showing them how to be good people.
Hugs to you, Maineiac. Isn't it nice to have a place to come and let your hair down?
Apparently, it's an epidemic, and this woman from western Washington does not even run a B&B. She posted this on her blog this morning, and I just had to add it here because the picture is so appropriate, even if the actual circumstances are not.YellowSocks said:
Do any of these 'have to do it all' moms realize they are channeling the moms of the 50's who had NO outlet for their frustrations. Anyone wonder why women are diagnosed with more mental illness than men? Or why 'mother's little helper' was not a housekeeper, but a pill?Apparently, it's an epidemic, and this woman from western Washington does not even run a B&B. She posted this on her blog this morning, and I just had to add it here because the picture is so appropriate, even if the actual circumstances are not.YellowSocks said:
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Morticia - "That story with the kids who have a 2 hour span to go to their rooms to do whatever should have read, 'from 2-4 in the afternoon my kids are in the garden pulling weeds, vacuuming, doing laundry, etc'."But heavens NO, that would be against child labor laws or some crazy other law... (edited to add, this is written with a heck of sarcasm in my fingers - lol)Do any of these 'have to do it all' moms realize they are channeling the moms of the 50's who had NO outlet for their frustrations. Anyone wonder why women are diagnosed with more mental illness than men? Or why 'mother's little helper' was not a housekeeper, but a pill?Apparently, it's an epidemic, and this woman from western Washington does not even run a B&B. She posted this on her blog this morning, and I just had to add it here because the picture is so appropriate, even if the actual circumstances are not.YellowSocks said:
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Why, oh, why do they think a meltdown is inappropriate when they are doing the work of 5 people? Sure, lots of families had gardens and everyone 'ate from scratch' years ago, but there were also multi-generations living in one household. While mom was doing 'x', grandma was doing 'y' and grandpa was doing 'z' and EVERYONE was pitching in.
That story with the kids who have a 2 hour span to go to their rooms to do whatever should have read, 'from 2-4 in the afternoon my kids are in the garden pulling weeds, vacuuming, doing laundry, etc'.
Stop the insanity. Get off the 'perfect mother' roller coaster. NO ONE appreciates it. NO ONE. The kids will still be in therapy later on! The husbands will still find other women. No matter what you do it will never be enough. (Spoken like a true innkeeper, I know!)
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My soapbox is that they do not think to actually teach the kids to do chores like laundry or dishes or cleaning. They are supposed to have a "happy childhood". OK, now what happens when they are now adults having to fend for themselves? Why do they think the trend is now for kids to still be living with the Ps, as out kids call us, when they are 30 and older. They do not know how to do the things our parents insisted we do.Do any of these 'have to do it all' moms realize they are channeling the moms of the 50's who had NO outlet for their frustrations. Anyone wonder why women are diagnosed with more mental illness than men? Or why 'mother's little helper' was not a housekeeper, but a pill?Apparently, it's an epidemic, and this woman from western Washington does not even run a B&B. She posted this on her blog this morning, and I just had to add it here because the picture is so appropriate, even if the actual circumstances are not.YellowSocks said:
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Why, oh, why do they think a meltdown is inappropriate when they are doing the work of 5 people? Sure, lots of families had gardens and everyone 'ate from scratch' years ago, but there were also multi-generations living in one household. While mom was doing 'x', grandma was doing 'y' and grandpa was doing 'z' and EVERYONE was pitching in.
That story with the kids who have a 2 hour span to go to their rooms to do whatever should have read, 'from 2-4 in the afternoon my kids are in the garden pulling weeds, vacuuming, doing laundry, etc'.
Stop the insanity. Get off the 'perfect mother' roller coaster. NO ONE appreciates it. NO ONE. The kids will still be in therapy later on! The husbands will still find other women. No matter what you do it will never be enough. (Spoken like a true innkeeper, I know!)
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My soapbox is that they do not think to actually teach the kids to do chores like laundry or dishes or cleaning. They are supposed to have a "happy childhood". OK, now what happens when they are now adults having to fend for themselves? Why do they think the trend is now for kids to still be living with the Ps, as out kids call us, when they are 30 and older. They do not know how to do the things our parents insisted we do.Do any of these 'have to do it all' moms realize they are channeling the moms of the 50's who had NO outlet for their frustrations. Anyone wonder why women are diagnosed with more mental illness than men? Or why 'mother's little helper' was not a housekeeper, but a pill?Apparently, it's an epidemic, and this woman from western Washington does not even run a B&B. She posted this on her blog this morning, and I just had to add it here because the picture is so appropriate, even if the actual circumstances are not.YellowSocks said:
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Why, oh, why do they think a meltdown is inappropriate when they are doing the work of 5 people? Sure, lots of families had gardens and everyone 'ate from scratch' years ago, but there were also multi-generations living in one household. While mom was doing 'x', grandma was doing 'y' and grandpa was doing 'z' and EVERYONE was pitching in.
That story with the kids who have a 2 hour span to go to their rooms to do whatever should have read, 'from 2-4 in the afternoon my kids are in the garden pulling weeds, vacuuming, doing laundry, etc'.
Stop the insanity. Get off the 'perfect mother' roller coaster. NO ONE appreciates it. NO ONE. The kids will still be in therapy later on! The husbands will still find other women. No matter what you do it will never be enough. (Spoken like a true innkeeper, I know!)
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Sorry, just my old fogie opinion.
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My opinion, too. Parents who don't instill the value of hard work into their children are doing them a real disservice. They are setting them up for a lifetime of disappointment. IMHO.gillumhouse said:
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