I’m not a fan of gaming the system … but I’m also frustrated with the whole funeral ‘ industry ‘ and can see why people look for help paying.
My brother in law had covid in November, he was in ICU, then a nursing facility until he passed in February. His immediate family is on overwhelm. My sister, his wife, passed Christmas Eve 2020, one of their sons died of cancer In July, another son has the same cancer and is responding well to treatment. Funeral plans for my brother in law are on hold until his sick son is strong enough to attend a service.
Thus far, any benefit for covid funeral assistance for my brother in law has been denied … not so easy HERE to obtain even though he really should qualify. No one is ‘helping’ with the death certificate.
He was cremated and we will have some kind of service eventually.
Meanwhile several funeral brochures, offers, calls and suggestions have arrived for the family, including the strong pressure to pay $700 for a deluxe memorial video now while they prepare for the eventual funeral. I made a lovely one for someone on my home computer, and happen to believe it’s much nicer than the one for my late sister done by the funeral home. And I burned dvds for anyone who wanted one. Very inexpensive. The only advantage I can see to having the funeral home involved is that it’s still viewable on the legacy site. But I would think you could submit your own.
I was stunned at the cost of my sister’s small funeral, including military honor guard which is provided free by the military and which my brother in law will also have. There was a charge on my sister’s bill … I discovered after I requested an itemization … that mentioned military honor coordination for a few hundred. I got that charge removed after telling them I knew darn well all it required was a telephone call. Want to charge $20 for a phone call? Fine. But not $200. The family brought the ‘urn’ to the church, service provided by my sister’s brother in law in the clergy. There were also charges from the funeral home related to a ‘funeral procession’ which did not happen, graveside services … didn’t happen … an urn, the ‘urn’ is a ceramic cookie jar made by my sister years ago. One of my nephews has it. After agreeing to deduct about $5000 from the bill which was still huge after I went in line by line, they told me the services I questioned were usually standard and must have been accidentally keyed in.
sorry to rant.