Mom Doesn't Get It!

[Generic]

My mother just doesn't get what I do for a living. She's been here, but still doesn't seem to understand at all. She calls me and expects that I can just drop everything. Yesterday we were on our way to pick up her stuff because she is being discharged today and had to have everything out of the room. Almost there, we get a call from a guest, the lock broke and they are locked in the room. UGH! So we run in and get her stuff and I give her a quick kiss explaining that we have to go because of the emergency at home and she starts to give me an argument about not giving her 2 kisses (well, that's traditional here). But we have to get home.
Today at 10:05 she calls, she wants me to pick her up and take her home.... like I don't have a B&B to run, 3 rooms to turn over, breakfasts to serve, etc.
How do I get it through her head? I'm on month 2 of not having time to get a damn haircut.

 

[Silverspoon]

I had to hire help to take care of my mom...sometimes it's the only way for those needed but not essential duties like taking her out for appointments etc. Then, you can give her quality time when your schedule evens out.
Don't ever expect she will get what you do. Just do the best you can and get help with the other stuff.
From Been There, Done That

 

[Morticia]

My parents thought I only worked on weekends. Because they would never stay at a B&B they couldn't understand how busy we were.
They came to help out when Gomez was in the hospital years ago but still didn't get it.
I'm not sure you can explain it. And, she's having a tough time. She might be scared want the attention.

 

[Anon Inn]

You develop a quick elevator speech. You start with this speech every darn time the request is made. You say what you will to to assist. Repeat.
This may appear to be unkind to readers. It is not. It is how you can accommodate assisting your clueless loved ones.

 

[TheBeachHouse]

You develop a quick elevator speech. You start with this speech every darn time the request is made. You say what you will to to assist. Repeat.
This may appear to be unkind to readers. It is not. It is how you can accommodate assisting your clueless loved ones..

Had a friend visiting family down the street. Friend says, "I'm going to give Beachie a call to see if she wants to go with us today." Family says, "Are you crazy? You can't call her at 9 AM on a Saturday!!!!"
At least one person 'gets it.'

 

[Lee2014]

I had to hire help to take care of my mom...sometimes it's the only way for those needed but not essential duties like taking her out for appointments etc. Then, you can give her quality time when your schedule evens out.
Don't ever expect she will get what you do. Just do the best you can and get help with the other stuff.
From Been There, Done That.

From Been There, Done That

Yup! My family took care of my other grandma and uncle….We weren't running an inn but my mom's tutoring took place at our house. They always had to have your attention when you were the most busy…. Mom claimed that they waited to until they knew she would be busy!

But with all that, we were glad when it was all said and done to have taken care of them. No Regrets!

 

[Lee2014]

Its the old "they work at home, so of course, they have time to…" NO! We have less time but total in charge of our schedule…. Go where? Hold on. (block rooms) Yes, I'm free for that week...

 

[Generic]

I've been burning the candle at both ends for so long that I'm wicked.

 

[Lee2014]

I've been burning the candle at both ends for so long that I'm wicked. .

Haven't Canada got electricity yet?!?

 

[Copperhead]

She didn't remind you that you needed a haircut when you pick up her things?

She is seriously slacking in the Mom nagging department.

 

[Generic]

I've been burning the candle at both ends for so long that I'm wicked. .

Haven't Canada got electricity yet?!?

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Yeah, we usually sell it to you, but they have been doing so much fracking that instead of the clean renewable stuff, you guys are using up the carbon emission kind instead.

 

[Generic]

She didn't remind you that you needed a haircut when you pick up her things?

She is seriously slacking in the Mom nagging department.

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Nope, she did make me stop at 3 different stores though on the way back to her place.

 

[Breakfast Diva]

SHE will never get it. THEY will never get it. My assistant I hired for these months we're away is only starting to get it. I'm riding her butt that the e-mails & FB messages need to be checked and responded to constantly. She's worked for us on and off for a year and she didn't even get it until she's there by herself.
Unless they walk a mile in our shoes, they will never get it.

 

[Highlands John]

I think you're bashing your head against the wall.
My sister has been here many times over the years and she still thinks we cook breakfast, fluff a few rooms finishing mid morning and have the rest of the day to do what we want.