Wedding Guests

[Highlands John]

Have a "gentleman" staying for two nights, here for a local wedding. He came in last night at 1am drunk, this morning at breakfast he admits having a problem with the shelf in his room. Upon investigation turns out he's managed to knock the shelf that holds all the cups, glasses, teas/coffees and a small plant completely off the wall. So there's broken china, glass and soil all over the place and 4 large holes in the wall from where the shelf was ripped off.
He claims the shelf was loose and said it fell off when he leaned on it, quite apart from the fact that the shelf is in an alcove above a chest of draws so really quite impossible for anyone sober to "lean on", the fact that 3 of the 4 metal plugs holding this shelf on the wall are broken it's clear that his drunken state is the primary cause of the damage. I was all in favour of throwing him out once I'd seen the damage, DH was a little more even-handed. Having said that we had to put him in another room because we have to patch the wall, wait for that to dry, repaint, dry that and then put the shelf back up. And we have 5 nighters arriving in that room tomorrow and no-where else for them to go.
I did calm down a little when I checked that neither the chest of draws or carpet (both of which are brand new this year) sustained any permanent damage.
I was telling a fellow friend/B&B owner and he said several B&Bs in his town wont take wedding guests because they are more trouble than they're worth. They all want early check-in before the wedding to get changed, they all come back late, drunk and therefore noisy, and they all want late check put because they're hung-over.
Previously I've had no damage like this, but it does have me thinking and all the other points are frequent.
Anyone else have bad experiences / no guests ban ?

 

[Arks]

Previously I've had no damage like this...
It's not easy, but I try my best to avoid making big policy changes over a very rare incident. I wouldn't make a policy change unless another wedding guest does the same sort of thing in the near future.
As to the current damage, do you plan to just eat it? Obviously a decent guest would offer to pay for the damage they caused, but apparently this jerk wants it to be your fault.

 

[Madeleine]

Whole house wedding parties. We don't deny them but they have to take the whole house, not just 5 rooms; won't take them if even one other room is booked by someone else, require a 50% deposit at time of booking, the other half due and non refundable 30 days prior.
Same for anyone wanting the whole house. It has to be the whole house.
No brides. Last bride's mother cancelled the room she booked for the bride to get ready and the bride had all kinds of people ringing the bell at 7 AM to get in to do their stuff. Flower girls were dumped on the doorstep. FOUR photographers showed up. Family. At one point she had SEVENTEEN people in her room. Which, had her mother kept the original room would not have been an issue at all. But she cheaped out and took a tiny room instead.
On the whole, most of our wedding guests other than the whole house crowd haven't been awful. Have heard stories, tho... We ended up with a wedding guest who was told to change inns because MOG wanted 'her' people in the inn with her, no riff raff 'friends'. He called, and with kids screaming in the background, asked if we had a bar. Uh oh.
He turned out to be a gem but the folks he got booted for ended up having a knock down drag out fight that broke furniture at the other inn. Those same wedding guests, from the other inn, kept coming over here and drinking the coffee and eating all the snacks under the guise of 'waiting for our friends'. Because I didn't check them in, I thought they were our guests!
We've had 'strangers' turn up at breakfast because of drunken hook ups at weddings.
Can't say we've had a lot of damage, just a lot of work.

 

[Joey Camb]

Im not in the best of moods as was up half the night with idiots
(1) room 6 - 11pm I can't find the code for the wi-fi - this from guest that arrived at 12pm lunch time and has had at least 11 hours to look for it. She has arrived here from spain to start a job with no where to live and has only booked 1 night BB - and was astonished how expensive flats are here (she is waitressing so there is no chance of her affording a flat here!) been explaining what a bed sit is.
(2) 11.15pm we can't open our window room 8
(3) room 6 - there is only cold water in my shower - go up yet again and its totally fine
Completely forgot was supposed to take brother in law to York to supervise a marathon - the twit texted at 6am when he was supposed to be here for pick up - then sat in the car park till 6.45 then rang to say was it too late to go! why didn't you ring at 6! cos it was far too late to go then and he had to walk back home. (45 min trip each way for me and have to be back by 7.50 at latest to be ready to open up!)
havn't had such a disturbed nights sleep in 2 years!

 

[Highlands John]

Previously I've had no damage like this...
It's not easy, but I try my best to avoid making big policy changes over a very rare incident. I wouldn't make a policy change unless another wedding guest does the same sort of thing in the near future.
As to the current damage, do you plan to just eat it? Obviously a decent guest would offer to pay for the damage they caused, but apparently this jerk wants it to be your fault..

Wedding guests do come back exceedingly drunk and I can't help feeling that something like this was bound to happen one day. It's surprised me we've managed 11 seasons without someone throwing up on the carpet.
We don't get that many wedding guests so if I stopped them it's no big loss.
In their defence, most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road which costs £20,000+ to rent for the weekend, so I suspect we do get a slightly better class of wedding guest than average.
ill give it a few days before I decided.

 

[Highlands John]

We did get an apology before he left this morning, which was more than yesterday.
DH thinks once he'd sobered up completely he realised it was his fault. I went one further and said I think once he'd sobered he realised that we knew it was his drunken state that caused the problem.

 

[BananaE29]

Previously I've had no damage like this...
It's not easy, but I try my best to avoid making big policy changes over a very rare incident. I wouldn't make a policy change unless another wedding guest does the same sort of thing in the near future.
As to the current damage, do you plan to just eat it? Obviously a decent guest would offer to pay for the damage they caused, but apparently this jerk wants it to be your fault..

Wedding guests do come back exceedingly drunk and I can't help feeling that something like this was bound to happen one day. It's surprised me we've managed 11 seasons without someone throwing up on the carpet.
We don't get that many wedding guests so if I stopped them it's no big loss.
In their defence, most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road which costs £20,000+ to rent for the weekend, so I suspect we do get a slightly better class of wedding guest than average.
ill give it a few days before I decided.
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Might be a "better" class, but probably "worse" behaved!

 

[JBloggs]

I am guessing it can be more regional HJ. I can understand some countries and areas of countries having a higher 'get pissed' percentage than others, and location to local pubs and event centers, and walkability.
Having said that our wedding guests have only been a problem one time.
AND one other time: here prior to their own wedding became a "Bridal suite" thing with flowers, hair dresser and makeup person etc. Dusting powder everywhere and the bridal party all showing up here for makeup and photos as well. I would have required they reserve the inn for that, not "a" room, and not telling us in advance was major. They left late and I had all new rooms checking in and there was dusting powder everywhere and bits of flowers and stuff. It was a mess, I was distraught.
We have not had anyone here drunk or causing mayhem due to being intoxicated from a wedding reception.
IF I had a place where it happened more than once in a blue moon I would be sure to get some guidelines in place. I dare say it happens often at receptions in these parts that are not associated with a church - as they don't serve alcohol on the church grounds/halls. But they are the locals or staying with locals, not our out of towners.

 

[Arks]

Previously I've had no damage like this...
It's not easy, but I try my best to avoid making big policy changes over a very rare incident. I wouldn't make a policy change unless another wedding guest does the same sort of thing in the near future.
As to the current damage, do you plan to just eat it? Obviously a decent guest would offer to pay for the damage they caused, but apparently this jerk wants it to be your fault..

Wedding guests do come back exceedingly drunk and I can't help feeling that something like this was bound to happen one day. It's surprised me we've managed 11 seasons without someone throwing up on the carpet.
We don't get that many wedding guests so if I stopped them it's no big loss.
In their defence, most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road which costs £20,000+ to rent for the weekend, so I suspect we do get a slightly better class of wedding guest than average.
ill give it a few days before I decided.
.

...most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road...

Just don't hear that said around here very often ;-)

 

[Tom]

Whole house wedding parties. We don't deny them but they have to take the whole house, not just 5 rooms; won't take them if even one other room is booked by someone else, require a 50% deposit at time of booking, the other half due and non refundable 30 days prior.
Same for anyone wanting the whole house. It has to be the whole house.
No brides. Last bride's mother cancelled the room she booked for the bride to get ready and the bride had all kinds of people ringing the bell at 7 AM to get in to do their stuff. Flower girls were dumped on the doorstep. FOUR photographers showed up. Family. At one point she had SEVENTEEN people in her room. Which, had her mother kept the original room would not have been an issue at all. But she cheaped out and took a tiny room instead.
On the whole, most of our wedding guests other than the whole house crowd haven't been awful. Have heard stories, tho... We ended up with a wedding guest who was told to change inns because MOG wanted 'her' people in the inn with her, no riff raff 'friends'. He called, and with kids screaming in the background, asked if we had a bar. Uh oh.
He turned out to be a gem but the folks he got booted for ended up having a knock down drag out fight that broke furniture at the other inn. Those same wedding guests, from the other inn, kept coming over here and drinking the coffee and eating all the snacks under the guise of 'waiting for our friends'. Because I didn't check them in, I thought they were our guests!
We've had 'strangers' turn up at breakfast because of drunken hook ups at weddings.
Can't say we've had a lot of damage, just a lot of work..

"Can't say we've had a lot of damage, just a lot of work."
Could be an innkeeper's epitaph.

 

[Joey Camb]

Previously I've had no damage like this...
It's not easy, but I try my best to avoid making big policy changes over a very rare incident. I wouldn't make a policy change unless another wedding guest does the same sort of thing in the near future.
As to the current damage, do you plan to just eat it? Obviously a decent guest would offer to pay for the damage they caused, but apparently this jerk wants it to be your fault..

Wedding guests do come back exceedingly drunk and I can't help feeling that something like this was bound to happen one day. It's surprised me we've managed 11 seasons without someone throwing up on the carpet.
We don't get that many wedding guests so if I stopped them it's no big loss.
In their defence, most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road which costs £20,000+ to rent for the weekend, so I suspect we do get a slightly better class of wedding guest than average.
ill give it a few days before I decided.
.

...most wedding guests we get are from the castle down the road...

Just don't hear that said around here very often ;-)
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honey I have at least 3 castles, a cathedral and an abbey all of which I get wedding guests from! have approx. 30 wedding venue's within 15 minutes drive of us - pumps out a lot of wedding guests.
They are even doing weddings at our theatre now!

 

[Generic]

We hardly get any wedding people at all. Maybe one or two a year.
Just to give you an idea, the rate of marriage around here is 2.9 per 1000 and the US average is 6.8 per thousand. (Our national average is just 4.4 per 1000.)
One of the main differences is that we don't have to marry for rights and insurance, so a lot of people never bother to get married.

 

[TheBeachHouse]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look.

 

[Silverspoon]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.

 

[TheBeachHouse]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.
.

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.

I don't know if we will make any policy changes. DH is usually willing to give discounts for whole house reservations, but I'm thinking maybe a security deposit. These folks were nice enough and polite in general, but the lunch thing really bugged me. They just left the garbage out and went to their wedding!! The catering came in a cardboard box and included two heavy duty garbage bags!! They could have easily cleaned up the big piece and left the bag in the box for us to haul away.
I have been told more than once not to accept groups. On the other hand, we just got two very nice reviews from two members of a 5 couple group that stayed with us for one night. They told DH that they planned to have wine on the deck, so we happily set out 10 wine glasses. They cleaned up after themselves and left fairly early the next day and gave us 2 good reviews. Of course, they were not in their early 20s.

 

[TheBeachHouse]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.
.

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.

I don't know if we will make any policy changes. DH is usually willing to give discounts for whole house reservations, but I'm thinking maybe a security deposit. These folks were nice enough and polite in general, but the lunch thing really bugged me. They just left the garbage out and went to their wedding!! The catering came in a cardboard box and included two heavy duty garbage bags!! They could have easily cleaned up the big piece and left the bag in the box for us to haul away.
I have been told more than once not to accept groups. On the other hand, we just got two very nice reviews from two members of a 5 couple group that stayed with us for one night. They told DH that they planned to have wine on the deck, so we happily set out 10 wine glasses. They cleaned up after themselves and left fairly early the next day and gave us 2 good reviews. Of course, they were not in their early 20s.
.

And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!

 

[BananaE29]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.
.

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.

I don't know if we will make any policy changes. DH is usually willing to give discounts for whole house reservations, but I'm thinking maybe a security deposit. These folks were nice enough and polite in general, but the lunch thing really bugged me. They just left the garbage out and went to their wedding!! The catering came in a cardboard box and included two heavy duty garbage bags!! They could have easily cleaned up the big piece and left the bag in the box for us to haul away.
I have been told more than once not to accept groups. On the other hand, we just got two very nice reviews from two members of a 5 couple group that stayed with us for one night. They told DH that they planned to have wine on the deck, so we happily set out 10 wine glasses. They cleaned up after themselves and left fairly early the next day and gave us 2 good reviews. Of course, they were not in their early 20s.
.

And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!
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And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!

Was this a complimentary gift from you, as their hostess? I don't think I would be able to keep my mouth shut, if so. Some sarcastic thing would slip out before they left. Your whole post just set my teeth on edge. They weren't nice & polite - they were rude, inconsiderate little jerks who acted like your beautiful place was their personal dorm! Argh!

 

[Kay Nein]

We did get an apology before he left this morning, which was more than yesterday.
DH thinks once he'd sobered up completely he realised it was his fault. I went one further and said I think once he'd sobered he realised that we knew it was his drunken state that caused the problem..

Are you charging him for the damage? Especially since he's apologized and kinda owned up to it?

 

[TheBeachHouse]

Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.
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Beachy, you most likely would be full this weekend even if you had not accepted this most current group of wedding guests. Hopefully there will be no permanent damage, but you have experienced the extra work that hosting a group like this entails. Any plans to curtail hosting wedding groups or, perhaps, hiking the rate to cover the extra work and angst?
I'm just curious. Early on we took wedding groups but soon decided that they were not our market. We are ever so much happier having couples...not groups. We do not even accept reservations from brides because the entourage is just too disruptive. Once the wedding is over and the couple wants some alone time we are happy to give them a reservation. Even though it's tough to turn them away, we are so much happier without the hassle and work.

I don't know if we will make any policy changes. DH is usually willing to give discounts for whole house reservations, but I'm thinking maybe a security deposit. These folks were nice enough and polite in general, but the lunch thing really bugged me. They just left the garbage out and went to their wedding!! The catering came in a cardboard box and included two heavy duty garbage bags!! They could have easily cleaned up the big piece and left the bag in the box for us to haul away.
I have been told more than once not to accept groups. On the other hand, we just got two very nice reviews from two members of a 5 couple group that stayed with us for one night. They told DH that they planned to have wine on the deck, so we happily set out 10 wine glasses. They cleaned up after themselves and left fairly early the next day and gave us 2 good reviews. Of course, they were not in their early 20s.
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And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!
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And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!

Was this a complimentary gift from you, as their hostess? I don't think I would be able to keep my mouth shut, if so. Some sarcastic thing would slip out before they left. Your whole post just set my teeth on edge. They weren't nice & polite - they were rude, inconsiderate little jerks who acted like your beautiful place was their personal dorm! Argh!
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And on a more personal note, I cannot get over the fact that that little chit of a groom drank the champagne BEFORE the wedding. The bride won't even know about it!

Was this a complimentary gift from you, as their hostess? I don't think I would be able to keep my mouth shut, if so. Some sarcastic thing would slip out before they left. Your whole post just set my teeth on edge. They weren't nice & polite - they were rude, inconsiderate little jerks who acted like your beautiful place was their personal dorm! Argh!

Yes, it was a gift. We aren't permitted to offer alcohol as part of our service, but sometimes we give special guests a gift. I told DH I was going to ask her, "How did you enjoy the champagne?" But I didn't want to be the cause of a very short marriage. She'll find out soon enough who she married.

 

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Yep. This weekend. All 6 rooms to the groom and his friends for Saturday and Sunday night. The bride and her group in the inn down the street. The bride stayed here in his room last night after the wedding.
All checked in early.
Several left before breakfast to meet the bride for makeup at 8. So I hurried to put out my yogurt parfaits, but they left before the bacon, eggs and pancakes were ready.
Groom's friends had nothing to do so they asked for beach towels to go to the beach. The beach towels have been put away cuz it's October. So we gave them our 'rag' towels that we use for cleaning. Living room floor full of sand.
Groom's father catered a lunch for the 'boys' in our breakfast room. I know because I went out there to bring out the clean dishes and there was a container of pasta, salad, dressing, rolls, drinks.
We had to go out for the afternoon, so couldn't wait for the groom to leave, so he was there when we put the split of champagne in the couple's honeymoon room. He was pleased. So pleased, that he drank the champagne with his buddies before the wedding. I know because when I went out there to check on garbage, the lunch AND the champagne bottle were there along with beer bottles and lots of dirty dishes. We almost left them there, but I didn't want the bride coming home to garbage, so we cleaned up at 7 PM.
They stumbled home at 11, very loudly. I expected that, so didn't worry too much. But at 12:30, knowing I had to be up at 5:30 and knowing they'd been up at 7 and knowing they were getting louder and louder, I dressed, opened the door and waited.....they didn't even look up to acknowledge that I was in the room. I finally said, time to break it up, you're getting very loud. They did.
This morning, it appears that they tried to clean up. The chips bag and most of the beer bottles were in the trash can. Good kids, eh?
It is 8:40 and they haven't gotten out of bed yet, so I'll let you know how the rooms look..

Update - I spoke to DH (I'm at work in the city, not at the inn.) He said the group was very complimentary. Thanked him for the stay. Very polite.
I think they know how to be polite as taught in a book, but not how to be polite as in, a good guest. They aren't used to taking care of themselves, but they are used to being cared for. A common complaint about 'kids today!'
Of course, he hasn't seen the rooms yet.